The Trap You Create as a Pickup Artist (PUA)

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Published: 26th January 2011
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Being a "Pickup Artist" (or PUA) can make you out as somebody other people don't want to be friends and hang out with.



What I mean by this is that some of these folks present themselves as ego-clashing maniac and constantly trying to dominate overpower the other person every time to show they are the most alpha dominant around in hope of trying to get a girl, like it is a war.



Here you have 2 lions in the same cage, they will fight each other to the death and won't work together to help each other out.



This can lead to a dark one-sided, unhealthy obsession, and you will find your success with women does not equal to your happiness.



I mean come on, just chill, it's NOT just about finding a girl. It's about enjoying the environment of others and meeting great people around you to enrich your life who will always support you, and as an added bonus, the girls will naturally appear in your life.



You can be the egocentric, self-professed most important guy in the on the face of the earth when you are out...but you know what? Nobody gives a $hit!



Everybody can try to show off they are the controlling one in the room and the most alpha, but honestly, the thing is, nobody really cares how superior you behave; in fact, they might even feel repulsively threatened. So why don't you instead let go of your ego and make the other person feel special and let them feel their worth, and they will love you for it and you will be cool in their eyes, unlike those who are trying to compete for it out in social gatherings where people just want to relax and have fun?



You see, these aggressive ways of conducting yourself were once used to get things we wanted back in our ancestral time, but they no longer serve us in our modern, more civilized world. There are more boundaries that confine these barbaric behaviors (for instance the law, you can push it near the edge, but you can't break it) so we have to be aware and socially savvy.



Yes, that is pretty much the first thing we all learn in improving our skills with women and our dating life is to be dominant, but what is dominance?



A lot of people lack the social calibration awareness to understand what they're considered to t be dominant and confident actually come across as a control freak to being antagonistically aggressive.



A better way is to be what I called "Friendly Assertive (F.A.)""; you can still be dominant but without being so obvious, without making the other person on their guard and threatened.



I will dig more into this in the next installment, so not only can you use it whenever you are out meeting girls, but will also help you become a better leader!



Gabriel Angelo runs http://www.socialnatural.com, with the unique approach to dating and meeting women, by focusing on developing your "social skills" to be the most socially savvy person you can be, not just with women...but everybody. Although the arts are primarily related to dating and attracting women, they can be applied to other aspects of your life from social, dating, personal, and even professional.



For more information, please visit http://www.socialnatural.com.

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