Avoid the Flakes...with Girls!

Got Head & Shoulders...? Because you won't be needing it as I'm not talking about your hair.

So there you encoutner an absolutely drop-dead hottie right in front of you at 12 o'clock. BAM! You head straight for her. You head in with the fearlessness of a bull, and she's your redness you're magnetic to. You effortlessly get her number, and you're so satisfied of yourself and bring about an flaming warm-feeling that you did it and clap yourself on the back.

Then you attempted calling her, no answer.and no call back.

(a little later...) you text her, no reply.

A couple days later, still no reply. You text her second time, and again no reply.

The next day, still no reply.

Are you surprised, fellow number-closer?

That's right...those are flakes.

Ah of course, we all have received those from times to times, and for those who boast they have never gotten flakes...well, they're not trying, not approaching enough girls.

The term "flake" used in dating terminology refers to a shortage of compliance follow-up, she does not comply with any of your request. Even if the number she gave you was legit, she will not necessary request to any of your post-phone follow-up.

Doesn't have to be her not meeting up with you. It can be anything involving "non-compliance follow-up" on her part.

Now why do you get flaky numbers from girls?

That's because you failed to do your part to plant for a solid number.

Imagine that emotion you get when somebody's passing out random flyers to you on the street that you could care less about, and you got one? That is how you will be seen in her eyes, another flyer, unless you make it impressionable.

That is why on the initial approach you have to instill some sort of memorable impression to implant a story in her mind to make you stand out. Especially if it is a cold approach, forget the usual trivial talk, like "How's your day?" "Nice day, huh?"...and then ask "Can I have your number?"

For myself, for example, when I'm at a nightclub, I don't really bother asking for a girl's number unless I already kissed her; that will create for me a higher compliance follow-up rate when tried contacting her because I know from my experience, if I meet a girl in a nightclub and only talk to her for a couple minutes and go for the number, it's useless, with all the things going around, alcohol in her system, and other random guys who probably get her numbers too, I'll just be another random flyer being received by her.

Not much of a strong story to plant in her mind, eh?

That's why I make sure that I'm unforgettable in her mind before I even bother asking for her number to have a higher compliance follow-up.

Now I know some people will debate with me and say I should just go get her number anyway.

Of course it is a number's game; the more numbers you get, the more girls you get to meet up, but wouldn't you rather optimize those numbers than numbers that clog your phone (That's like still investing in a stock, while there are signs you know is plummeting)?

You want to strive for qualitative quantity.

Here in this case based on my past experience, meeting a woman in nightclub and only chatting with her for a few minutes, will result in a zero percent compliance follow-up.

That's why you want to maximize those compliance follow-up percentages during the encounter by making it memorable and unique, like creating a story in the woman's head.

Do something out of the ordinary that she wouldn't expect to interrupt her pattern to how she usually processes things.

Can you think of things you can do to make yourself unforgettable to increase your compliance follow-up rate?

Go on instant spontaneous dates. Take her to the coffee shop next door. Go grocery shopping. Go browsing in the local pharmacy. (Though this might not always go as she could be in a hurry.)

Ask for her help or something, like for directions, browsing for something, or whatever, but make sure she has some firm story implanted in her mind about you. (Getting assistance is probably the easiest and safest way.)

Here something I do if I approach a girl on the street or store, I would do some ballroom dancing with her right there in front of everybody (even though I'm terrible at it :) ). That is definitely unconventional and gets her to firmly establish me in her mind.

Keep the interaction for as long as you can with her.

Cram as much activites as you can in the amount of time you have with the girl so it feels she has known you for a while instead of just met. Walk with her to as many blocks as possible, and if there happens to be some theatrical, attention-grabbers like an accident, show, etc, savor those moments with her and enjoy them to implant a more profound story for her to have in her mind.

I know these probably applied mostly to day game, approaching women during the day and on the streets, but the basic premise of implanting a story in her mind is still crucial, as I said before I don't ask for a girl's number in a nightclub unless I kissed her. The kissing is an implanted story that will give me more browne points to the compliance follow-up rate that I made it to a further base.

Don't just be the guy that meets her and talks to her for a few minutes and ask for the number. It will make the girl feel like receiving random flyers on the street, which you are the flyer. Your compliance follow-up rate will be very low. Even if you do manage to get her real number, we want to maintain those compliance follow-up rate up, so to get her to go out with you and start building a connection.

You want girls to go out on dates with after meeting her? Well that's how you get them to, implant the story to rapid-fire expedite your connection level with her. This will make her feel she has know you a lot longer than she actually does and will likely to meet with old friend than new stranger.

I'll talk more about this idea of implanting story and how you can apply it not just for meeting women but to all kinds of social situation to build instant connection with anybody, and I'll provide you more examples and some ones of mine.

Gabriel Angelo runs http://www.socialnatural.com, with the unique approach to dating and meeting women, by focusing on developing your "social skills" to be the most socially savvy person you can be, not just with women...but everybody. Although the arts are primarily related to dating and attracting women, they can be applied to other aspects of your life from social, dating, personal, and even professional.

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